Pale Rider vs Fairy Flesh

How close are they?

ΔE 23.5, loose: different enough that you should pick on purpose. Fairy Flesh is noticeably darker, more saturated, warmer than Pale Rider.

Can I use Fairy Flesh instead of Pale Rider?

Not as a straight swap; see the closer alternatives below. Loose match (ΔE 23). Fairy Flesh is noticeably darker, more saturated, warmer than Pale Rider.

Can I use Pale Rider instead of Fairy Flesh?

The same difference applies the other way round: Pale Rider is noticeably lighter, more muted, cooler.

ΔE is the colour difference between our two swatch estimates: under about 6 is close, over about 15 is loose. Real paints also differ in finish, coverage and how they thin, so test before you commit.